Your mind and your life.

Give it dreams to build, or weapons to kill; your mind never fails, and it never will.
© prashantlm

Have you ever wonder how some people are so much so successful while most are living just a life of mediocrity. Some people are so happy even with the adversaries while most are living in disdain?  

Why so? Does we are created differently?

Do we experience different life situations?

If what we are facing is happening for the first time and this experience never happened before... guess not... So what's the difference in outcome when more or less the problems or situations are altogether same...?

Does God have created us differently or to have different life styles...?  If so how people living in same atmosphere in same outsets live a totally different life. How some people change their life when something less desirable happens and other allow it to worsen the life. How some people get healed from chronic illnesses while some die of very small disease, what is the difference? Is there anything to do with our Fate, but if there is anything called fate at all?
Before we go further first look at this.....

Have you ever seen books of a young kid of nursery or kindergarten, did you ever give it a serious thought why the images are so big and writing are so small, maybe you'd thought that because they don't know how to read that's why the words are small and just to give them a joy to see the images is the reason that's why they are big, if so you're wrong!

Because doesn't matter how well you can read or how young or old you are, our mind works in the same manner, yes you read it right IN The exact same manner, it creates images for everything and then store them for future reference being it a object or a incident, for example if someone says apple or spoon your mind goes back and check and matches the reference and according to its experience with that, reflect back your response. Say if you burn your tongue while sipping a hot cup of tea, every time you're presented with a cup of tea your mind will first see if it is hot or cool enough to drink.

So how does it affect our life?

In every way, yes in every way!!!

Every time you face any situation your mind checks for reference and match it and
validate it with your belief, as it is created to bring forth the relevant experience and fulfil the matched reference , that's why it is said problems never comes alone or when it rains it pours... Cause your mind will find more of such experience to validate your feeling state and experience. That's why majority of the population experience the same problems again and again...Same hurts, same relationship problems...Same financial issues etc...

Remember!

We draw in our lifespan, what we concentrate on, we bring into our lives, what we centre on. This is the way it cultivates... Irrespective of how hard you try, it will redeem what you abide upon. Your mind will always work to fulfil the image created in it... More you think, read or write of negative things or experience stronger the images become and more easily it show up...
Stop dwelling in negativity, refrain yourself from Negative talks, Stay away from negative discussions and foremost, stay away from writing about them(because when you write anything it creates deeper impact in your subconscious mind more easily)
If you wish to see a different outcome you have to create a different image else it won't work no matter how hard you try.

Living by the Words - Characteristics Of Happy People-1

"Words are free. It's how you use them that may cost you."

Words are the reason that one person lives a life of abundance while another person lives a life of lack. Words can open doorways that hands can not. Our languages have these precious gifts which are not merely words but are characteristics itself to live an happy life.

Here are some words which are  core characteristics happy people seem to share in common.

1.  Accountability

"Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else." Les Brown

The first and most important step toward success and happiness is the decision to take full responsibility for our actions and associated consequences.
People tend to externalize when they encounter problems—to look beyond themselves and find fault with others when things go wrong. Society's mantra is "There's plenty of blame to go around!" You can hear it echo in the reactions to the election. But when we choose to hold ourselves accountable, we're more likely to be happier and successful in work and in our relationships.
Life is filled with traps that let people avoid personal accountability. It's easy to make excuses, play the victim, feel a sense of entitlement or procrastinate. Taking ownership for your actions and reactions lets you avoid anger, cynicism, envy and frustration and instead focus on positive emotions and healthy living.
Once you accept total responsibility for everything that happens to you in life, you will soon discover that this also enables you to find solutions to life’s difficulties far more quickly, In accepting responsibility, you are accepting a willingness to develop your character and in doing that, the stronger your character will become and your life will be improved as a consequence. You will feel less stressed Increased productive, better time management, improved relationships and overall well being.

"Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.” - Gautam Budh

2.  Adaptability



“The measure of a person’s strength is not his muscular power or strength, but it is his flexibility and adaptability.” -Debashish Mridha   

Adaptability doesn’t just mean learning a new language or adaptive to different weather conditions. It means a whole lot of changes that happen in the mind – in the process of successfully mastering a new situation.
Adaptability is important because people are different and need to be treated differently. You develop open and honest relationships with others by being tactful, reasonable, and understanding.
“Our ability to have life satisfaction, to be happy and to have good relationships really depends on our ability to adapt.”
Being adaptable means not feeling hopeless and helpless in the face of change. If you are adaptive than even if you can't change the situation, you have figured out the key to being happy regardless of your circumstances.
With adaptability, you can treat people the way they want to be treated.

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.”-Charles Darwin

3.  Appreciation

“Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.” ― Voltaire

Appreciation is the one thing we can do in our lives that influences everybody around us and even those that are not around us. It is so little and moderately simple for us, yet can make one of the greatest effects on our general surroundings. Appreciation is one characteristic that we can figure out how to have and use that would dependably have a positive effect on those we come into contact with.
People who are appreciative are less materialist and less envious. In particular, appreciative people are more willing to part with their possessions, more generous with them, less envious of the material wealth of others, less committed to the idea that material wealth brings happiness.
Appreciation is a mindful affirmation of all that we have been given. When we concentrate on the wealth in our lives, we find a more noteworthy limit with regards to generosity, cheerfulness, and happiness.
Offering thanks is a rewarding habit that affirms the beauty of the provider. Appreciation opens our hearts, encourages us to enjoy each blessing that comes our direction, and mysteriously liberates us from desirously guarding our belonging. It gives us a chance to commend today as opposed to sitting tight for the following level of achievement or riches.
This word is motivational, carrying a huge power inside and can turn negative thoughts into positive. This is the magic of appreciation.
With more appreciation for others and their uniqueness we would be able to better learn from each other and combine our intelligence.

“Appreciation can make a day - even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary. -- Margaret Cousins

4.  Affection

“Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.”- C. S. Lewis

Affection produces feelings of intimacy, security, significance, and respect in a relationship. Affection results in the tender feelings. from our early childhood we need affection to live a healthy and happier life.
Affection  is a disposition or state of mind or body that is often associated with a feelings or type of love. Affection is popularly used to denote a feeling or type of  love, amounting to more than goodwill or friendship. Generally the word affection is used to refer the distinct states of feeling, both lasting and spasmodic
Helpful emotions are much more likely to surface when the mind is not preoccupied with emotions rooted in craving and aversion, emotions that all too often distort our perception of the world. Among all the helpful emotions  affection is extremely important. It ensures that a personal life is rooted in healthy relationships with other people and with other forms of life. It also helps create optimal inner conditions for the heart to relax into the peace.

“The fact is that people are good, Give people affection and security, and they will give affection and be secure in their feelings and their behavior.” =Abraham Maslow

*This article is a part of a series on the same subject. Keep Reading*