"Words are free. It's how you use them that may cost you."
Words are the reason that one person lives a life of abundance while another person lives a life of lack. Words can open doorways that hands can not. Our languages have these precious gifts which are not merely words but are characteristics itself to live an happy life.
1. Accountability
"Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else." Les Brown
The first and most important step toward success and happiness is the decision to take full responsibility for our actions and associated consequences.
People tend to externalize when they encounter problems—to look beyond themselves and find fault with others when things go wrong. Society's mantra is "There's plenty of blame to go around!" You can hear it echo in the reactions to the election. But when we choose to hold ourselves accountable, we're more likely to be happier and successful in work and in our relationships.
Life is filled with traps that let people avoid personal accountability. It's easy to make excuses, play the victim, feel a sense of entitlement or procrastinate. Taking ownership for your actions and reactions lets you avoid anger, cynicism, envy and frustration and instead focus on positive emotions and healthy living.
Once you accept total responsibility for everything that happens to you in life, you will soon discover that this also enables you to find solutions to life’s difficulties far more quickly, In accepting responsibility, you are accepting a willingness to develop your character and in doing that, the stronger your character will become and your life will be improved as a consequence. You will feel less stressed Increased productive, better time management, improved relationships and overall well being.
"Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.” - Gautam Budh
2. Adaptability
“The measure of a person’s strength is not his muscular power or strength, but it is his flexibility and adaptability.” -Debashish Mridha
Adaptability doesn’t just mean learning a new language or adaptive to different weather conditions. It means a whole lot of changes that happen in the mind – in the process of successfully mastering a new situation.
Adaptability is important because people are different and need to be treated differently. You develop open and honest relationships with others by being tactful, reasonable, and understanding.
“Our ability to have life satisfaction, to be happy and to have good relationships really depends on our ability to adapt.”
Being adaptable means not feeling hopeless and helpless in the face of change. If you are adaptive than even if you can't change the situation, you have figured out the key to being happy regardless of your circumstances.
With adaptability, you can treat people the way they want to be treated.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.”-Charles Darwin
3. Appreciation
Appreciation is the one thing we can do in our lives that influences everybody around us and even those that are not around us. It is so little and moderately simple for us, yet can make one of the greatest effects on our general surroundings. Appreciation is one characteristic that we can figure out how to have and use that would dependably have a positive effect on those we come into contact with.
People who are appreciative are less materialist and less envious. In particular, appreciative people are more willing to part with their possessions, more generous with them, less envious of the material wealth of others, less committed to the idea that material wealth brings happiness.
Appreciation is a mindful affirmation of all that we have been given. When we concentrate on the wealth in our lives, we find a more noteworthy limit with regards to generosity, cheerfulness, and happiness.
Offering thanks is a rewarding habit that affirms the beauty of the provider. Appreciation opens our hearts, encourages us to enjoy each blessing that comes our direction, and mysteriously liberates us from desirously guarding our belonging. It gives us a chance to commend today as opposed to sitting tight for the following level of achievement or riches.
This word is motivational, carrying a huge power inside and can turn negative thoughts into positive. This is the magic of appreciation.
With more appreciation for others and their uniqueness we would be able to better learn from each other and combine our intelligence.
“Appreciation can make a day - even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary. -- Margaret Cousins
4. Affection
“Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.”- C. S. Lewis
Affection produces feelings of intimacy, security, significance, and respect in a relationship. Affection results in the tender feelings. from our early childhood we need affection to live a healthy and happier life.
Affection is a disposition or state of mind or body that is often associated with a feelings or type of love. Affection is popularly used to denote a feeling or type of love, amounting to more than goodwill or friendship. Generally the word affection is used to refer the distinct states of feeling, both lasting and spasmodic
Helpful emotions are much more likely to surface when the mind is not preoccupied with emotions rooted in craving and aversion, emotions that all too often distort our perception of the world. Among all the helpful emotions affection is extremely important. It ensures that a personal life is rooted in healthy relationships with other people and with other forms of life. It also helps create optimal inner conditions for the heart to relax into the peace.
“The fact is that people are good, Give people affection and security, and they will give affection and be secure in their feelings and their behavior.” =Abraham Maslow
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