Living by the Words - Characteristics Of Happy People-2

Ability

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.-Norman Vincent Peale

I believe everyone has unique skills and talents, and that is what makes each one of us special. And the difference between success and failure is not lack of ability but our unwillingness and lack of courage to put them into use. Success comes to those who never quit: the ones who put in their hard work and give it their best. Success comes to those people, who do the same things in a very different way. People who use their talents to its fullest are bound to be successful. Our ability to put our talents and strengths into use is what makes the difference whether you live your envisioned life or a life with no purpose.

Acceptance

Acceptance and tolerance and forgiveness, those are life-altering lessons. Jessica Lang

Acceptance implies grasping what is, instead of longing for what isn't. When we acknowledge troublesome substances, we can find whatever positive emotions and encounters might be conceivable in that circumstance. We get ourselves more settled and ready to encounter life all the more profoundly. All things being equal, acceptance must be guided by insight – to figure out how to differentiate between what we can change and what we can't.

Acceptance of our shortcomings and the issues of others causes us to be tolerant and to maintain a strategic distance from harmful sorts of feedback or judgment. By tolerating issues we turn out to be more ready to trust and commend qualities. Incomprehensibly, acknowledgment regularly prompts development since it makes a sheltered space for knowledge and comprehension.

Action

You need to know it's your actions that will make you a good person, not desire.-Matthew Quick,

It is good to dream but It is better to take a step ahead and work for achieving your dream rather than feeling proud about it. Taking action no matter how small it may be moves you forward towards achieving your envisioned desire. It doesn't matter how slow you move towards your goal as long as you keep yourself on the path of your destination. Taking action is moving from the place of wish to the place of achievement, It is your actions which will take you to the place where you can live the life you always dreamed of living, A life of fulfillment and purposes is only attained by consistent actions.

Without action a dream is a mere wish. Action is the fuel which moves the vehicle of desire towards the destination. You do not get ahead in life by accident. Sure, you may come into a fortunate situation and take advantage for years at a time. But having good luck is not a strategy. You get ahead in life by pushing through normal, stretching to be above average, and not accepting status quo. You will never be extraordinary without doing something extra. We are momentum based beings. When we keep moving forward, we thrive. When we stop, we stagnate. There’s a positive feedback loop when we keep taking action. As soon as we stop, that loop ends, and unfortunately we tend to focus on the last result we got (which was negative). But if we keep adapting, keep adjusting, keep learning, and keep trying– then with each incremental step you gain more confidence for the next attempt. We know more, we’ll know what not to do, and you’ll have a greater chance of achieving your goal.

Agreeableness

Nothing is divine but what is agreeable to reason.- Immanuel Kant

Agreeableness is one of the ‘big five’ personality factors or traits which has for decades been the subject of psychology research. A person who is highly agreeable will exhibit pro-social forms of behavior. They are more sociable, aim to please other people and are willing to help that in need. As a result, agreeable people tend to work well as part of a team. During arguments or times of conflict, they will seek to resolve, rather than prolong, confrontation. They are friendly towards other people, tolerant of others and show more patience than those who are less agreeable. A person who is agreeable may be more trusting of others and their intentions.

Agreeable people also exhibit more altruistic behavior. They are generally thoughtful of, and kinder to, peers, are generous towards people in a disadvantaged position and are willing to help others, Agreeableness is an obvious advantage for building teams and maintaining harmony on the work floor. It’s a fact that agreeable people are more likeable than disagreeable peoples who need it.

Your mind and your life.

Give it dreams to build, or weapons to kill; your mind never fails, and it never will.
© prashantlm

Have you ever wonder how some people are so much so successful while most are living just a life of mediocrity. Some people are so happy even with the adversaries while most are living in disdain?  

Why so? Does we are created differently?

Do we experience different life situations?

If what we are facing is happening for the first time and this experience never happened before... guess not... So what's the difference in outcome when more or less the problems or situations are altogether same...?

Does God have created us differently or to have different life styles...?  If so how people living in same atmosphere in same outsets live a totally different life. How some people change their life when something less desirable happens and other allow it to worsen the life. How some people get healed from chronic illnesses while some die of very small disease, what is the difference? Is there anything to do with our Fate, but if there is anything called fate at all?
Before we go further first look at this.....

Have you ever seen books of a young kid of nursery or kindergarten, did you ever give it a serious thought why the images are so big and writing are so small, maybe you'd thought that because they don't know how to read that's why the words are small and just to give them a joy to see the images is the reason that's why they are big, if so you're wrong!

Because doesn't matter how well you can read or how young or old you are, our mind works in the same manner, yes you read it right IN The exact same manner, it creates images for everything and then store them for future reference being it a object or a incident, for example if someone says apple or spoon your mind goes back and check and matches the reference and according to its experience with that, reflect back your response. Say if you burn your tongue while sipping a hot cup of tea, every time you're presented with a cup of tea your mind will first see if it is hot or cool enough to drink.

So how does it affect our life?

In every way, yes in every way!!!

Every time you face any situation your mind checks for reference and match it and
validate it with your belief, as it is created to bring forth the relevant experience and fulfil the matched reference , that's why it is said problems never comes alone or when it rains it pours... Cause your mind will find more of such experience to validate your feeling state and experience. That's why majority of the population experience the same problems again and again...Same hurts, same relationship problems...Same financial issues etc...

Remember!

We draw in our lifespan, what we concentrate on, we bring into our lives, what we centre on. This is the way it cultivates... Irrespective of how hard you try, it will redeem what you abide upon. Your mind will always work to fulfil the image created in it... More you think, read or write of negative things or experience stronger the images become and more easily it show up...
Stop dwelling in negativity, refrain yourself from Negative talks, Stay away from negative discussions and foremost, stay away from writing about them(because when you write anything it creates deeper impact in your subconscious mind more easily)
If you wish to see a different outcome you have to create a different image else it won't work no matter how hard you try.

She

Some moments of apprehension,
Illusion and depression,
A little time of disbelief,
Some doubtful days,
A few insomniac nights,
Some nightmares,
Fright and plight,
She was shaken, worried,
Dejected and dread,
She headed against the wall,
How to handle this all,
For a moment she is about to give up,
She was about to say, I quit, I quit,
But then,
Within her heart, she heard a voice,
For this you've made my child..
If this is my choice?
I made you for greatness and glory,
Is this the way you'll end your story?
If this the fate you choose,
If you're made to win or lose?
How you forget I live within you,
Leave, forget or forsake, can I do?
I am your father, you're my child,
With you, I walk with and within,
Do I fail so you could fail?
If this is a stranger of a trail,
Take your power, for I am the GOD,
Get up fly high, rise and shine,
I am your father and you're child mine,
Oh! Sorry, Father, I forget how,
No devil no evil can make me fret,
No Ill will no bad can withstand,
I am the power, she understands,
The soul of warrior awakened,
She now know;
Nothing can stand a fight,
With her power and her might,
She risen in the moment, she decide,
She doesn't have to worry or fear,
She is the light, when she'll emerge,
All the darkness diminishes,
All the trauma and despair subside,
The moment,
She chose her destiny as per her will,
The darkest night came to an end,
She marched towards the glory,
She walked the path of Greatness,
She arose to write her epic,
With faith in her heart,
Her head held high,
Hail, The princess walks,
With the victory,
holding her hand in hand !!

©prashantlm

रूक न तू...

मुश्किलो के आगे झुक कर रोता है क्या?
मायूस होकर बैठने से होता है क्या?
बुरा वक्त कट जाएगा एक दिन,
मर्द बन हौसला रख,
जज़्बा चट्टान सा रख तेरा ,
हौसले को कोई यूं खोता है क्या?
न कोई देता है साथ न दे, कोई गम न कर,
ख़ुदी तेरे साथ है फिर सोचता है क्या?
मरना एक दिन सबको है,
यूँ रोज रोज डर के कोई मरता है क्या?
न हार मान, ना अफसोस मना,
आजमाइश का वक़्त है घबरा मत,
सह सह के दवाब कोयला भी हीरा बन जाता है।
बिना बाधाओं के पानी झरना होता है क्या?
पारकर जाएगा सब मुश्किलो को ग़र तू न रुके।
तूफान कहाँ रुकते है रोकने से,
समंदर को कोई बांध कही रोकता है क्या।

©prashantlm